REDEFINING THE AMERICAN GIRL
THE NEW AMERICAN
As Aja Symone, I test limits and fight against the public understanding of what an American woman of the day is. This is a space that highlights the intersections of beauty, culture, and fashion through my gaze of life and style. My life is a mirrored representation of elements and experiences of the typical American woman. From beauty mishaps to understanding self-identity. This is the everyday American experience, an experience that is female, culturally saturated, and opinionated. This is a fusion of owning one's truth and understanding others. This is Aja Symone, Redefining the American Girl.
Often when we think or even identify what an American girl of the day is we tend to come up with one image. One image that is basic and exclusionary to what a woman is and can be. Being once a young black girl and now an emerging woman i have seen how exclusionary the space of womanhood is.
Being able to identify as a woman or even speak against the limiting use of gender stereotypes that are placed on women in itself is not only rebellious but a revolutionary act.
Women of today aren’t what men have made us out to be. We layered and ingenious beings. We are the gaming nerds, the scientists, the business owners, the politicians and so much more. But above all, we are who we choose to be.
We create and disassemble “standards” that are projected on us every day. We continue to reshape the idea of what an American woman of the day is. Being only what or who we choose to be by our standards and rule.
“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn’t it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim “You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself” made clear sense. And I add, “Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”
*Capitalization of bell hooks: A pseudonym, bell hooks, has claimed the name as tribute to her mother and great-grandmother. She decided not to capitalize her new name to place focus on her work rather than her name, on her ideas rather than her personality. Her birth name is Gloria Jean Watkins
Photo Credit: Kimberly Bojorquez
TACOS. TACOS. + TACOS.. I can’t live without them.
I can play the alto and baritone saxophone
Being able to sit outside, either at a beach or a forest park. Sitting with my favorite drink and writing in the glimmer of the sunshine.
No Disrespect by Sista Soulja
Treasured Past time
Horeseback riding on the beach in Africa.
Someone who inspires me
As cliche, as it may sound my first inspiration for writing being an “actual” career, came from Demetria Lucas. She was an emerging writer on a show called Blood, Sweat, & Heels.